Style Smarts
 When it comes to attracting men, many women have it all wrong! Studies show that rockin' a skimpy black dress, heavy makeup and big, bold jewelry is the opposite of what most guys are attracted to. This look, or a variation of it can come across as high maintenance, intimidating or unoriginal depending on the guy. So then, what to wear? Opt for bright colors on top – jewel tones look great on every skin tone, make your eyes pop and send a message that you are fun and confident. Skip patterns, which detract from your face and can falsely add weight (particularly floral which gets a big thumbs down from guys). Hair and makeup should appear beautiful but natural (i.e. touchable) and jewelry, although it should be interesting, shouldn’t overpower an outfit. And just like in the game of flirting, your overall style should intrigue, but not give away your whole story. That said, choose one part of your body – the part you love the most and bare a bit of that. Although guys will self-describe themselves booty, breast or leg men, they are actually most attracted to subtly revealed neck and shoulders, so consider those as options too. Remember that your smile is your ultimate accessory and only your winning personality will keep him around once you’ve lured him in.
xo, Tristan
MENgaging
 Ever found yourself tongue-tied in front of a crushable? Knowing you shouldn’t let the opportunity pass by, but dumbfounded when it comes to what to say? Instead of over-thinking it, trying to drum up something wildly witty, bank on a foolproof MENgagement standby. Guys like to feel needed so try asking for help: “Can you pass the sugar, please?” (which allows you the opportunity to “accidentally” gently touch hands) or “Would you mind watching my stuff for a minute?” (which allows him to know he’s the chosen one and gives you another chance to talk to him upon your return). Secondly, we aren’t the only ones who relish in the light of a good compliment. Boys like them too so toss a manly compliment his way and if appropriate add a question along with it to engage him longer, such as “That’s a very cool t-shirt – did you go to the concert?” Thirdly, for the boldest of them all, to showcase your generosity and to have the best chance of igniting a conversation, offer to share something - perhaps a bite of something you are nibbling on (pretty hard to resist!) or a listen to a song. If this gallery of options is too major for you, believe it or not, a simple “Hi” can work like magic too!
xo, Tristan
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Zip It!
 Sometimes nervousness gets the best of us on a date and we can blab on but seriously, when it comes to certain subjects, on the first few dates, you need to shut up. Taboo topics include soulmates/destiny/fate, upcoming weddings you are going to that you just so happen to need a date for, ex-boyfriends or the number of guys you’ve bedded, your therapist or bouts in rehab, your perfectly mapped out plans for the future and current debt or your trust fund. TMI at the beginning is a major turn off to a guy who is only turned on by the good stuff – the easy, breezy, no drama stuff. So in that getting to know you phase, introduce the cool, calm, collected you, not the “Hey, how many kids do you want in the future? I hope it is more than my loser ex-boyfriend that I am so happy my shrink convinced me to break up with” girl to the side for now to keep from scaring him away. Serving up the sweet stuff with your mouth at the beginning is guaranteed to grant you sweet stuff in return... in the form of kisses!
xo, Tristan
Debt-Free Fashion
 It’s a new year and the new you wants to feel hotter than ever, right? But unfortunately reality might be bitchslapping you in the face with reminders that we are still in a recession, not to mention your generous spirit probably over-gifted during the holidays, leaving your designer wallet void of cash making you unable to dish out for new date digs. Well, never fear, I've got TWO solutions for you that will have you looking supremely hot on all your fabulous dates without sacrificing your rent check. First up: host a clothing swap with your BFFs. Temporarily or permanently trade cute tops, adorable dresses, killer shoes and ooh la la accessories. Although the goods aren't technically new, they will be new to you, and certainly to your dates, too. Number 2: keep a wardrobe log. Write down what you wear, with which mandidate and where you go. This way you can recycle favorite outfits without fear of repeat. Is there an app for that?! There should be! Here's to looking your best without going broke!
xo, Tristan
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