Sometimes nervousness gets the best of us on a date and we can blab on but seriously, when it comes to certain subjects, on the first few dates, you need to shut up. Taboo topics include soulmates/destiny/fate, upcoming weddings you are going to that you just so happen to need a date for, ex-boyfriends or the number of guys you’ve bedded, your therapist or bouts in rehab, your perfectly mapped out plans for the future and current debt or your trust fund. TMI at the beginning is a major turn off to a guy who is only turned on by the good stuff – the easy, breezy, no drama stuff. So in that getting to know you phase, introduce the cool, calm, collected you, not the “Hey, how many kids do you want in the future? I hope it is more than my loser ex-boyfriend that I am so happy my shrink convinced me to break up with” girl to the side for now to keep from scaring him away. Serving up the sweet stuff with your mouth at the beginning is guaranteed to grant you sweet stuff in return... in the form of kisses!
xo, Tristan
