To get in great flirting shape you need to exercise your flirting muscles. Just like you might hit the gym to tone up so that when you want to shed your clothes you look and feel your best, toning up your flirtation skills will enable you to boost your confidence so when a man of interest comes your way, flirting with him is done with ease, instead of feeling awkward, shy or unsexy. Toning up your flirt muscles is simple. Just flirt with at least 2-3 guys per day. Any guy will do! Could be your local barista, your mailman, the grocery cashier. Pay a compliment, offer an extra sultry smile or wink. Chanel your flirt hero (be it Zooey D, Angelina J or whatever other lovely matches your flirt type) and mimic whatever you think she would do. Throw inhibitions away, remembering this is your practice opportunity – these are your chances to get it wrong so when it counts, you get it right!
xo, Tristan
Waiting in line for a latte can be the ideal time to return a call or beat the next level of Brickbreaker and the idea of flying on a plane iPod-less sounds so 2001, but putting yourself in a technological bubble makes it hard for potential mandidates to break through to you. Buds in your ears or your pretty little face buried in a PDA not only makes it difficult for a guy to penetrate your tech zone, as purposefully or not, you are putting up a “do not disturb” sign. In a world filled with tech-obsessed busy bodies, being the antithesis to this is a refreshing sight to see, and a subtle invitation to guys. So the next time you’ve got some idle time, where sure, you could pound through a dozen emails, text your BFFs or get lost in your favorite new download, consider instead disconnecting from your techie gadgets and open up to connecting with a human hottie. I guarantee pushing a boys buttons will be more fun!
Newsflash: If your go-to first date dinner order sounds like, "I'll have the Cobb - no bacon, no cheese, dressing on the side. Hold the bread," you might as well ask for a side of man repellant. Opting for lo-cal/lo-flavor entrees makes you look lo-cal/lo-flavor. Guys don't want a woman who's high-maintenance, overly body conscious, fake, uncomfortable in her own skin or any combination of the above... which is what they ascertain when you order rabbit food for dinner. What they want is a full-flavored woman - a woman who is confidant and secure in her body, easygoing and real. They want a woman who can eat... so they can eat with her! Whereas you don't need to go wing for wing and beer for beer with your date, go ahead, order a burger and don't say no to dessert - show him that a carefree night with him is worth an extra hour at the gym... plus, you know you want that double-cheese anyway!
Ladies love to spend hours dissecting the behavior of a man. Whether it is a text, an email, something he said or did, didn’t say or didn’t do, with the help of our gal pals we attempt to interpret his behavior. But here’s the thing, reading between the lines is usually a waste of time because most guys don’t have an in-between. They say and do what they mean, usually, nothing more or less. When he says, “I don’t want a girlfriend” – he means he doesn’t want a girlfriend, not that he doesn’t want one unless someone as fabulous as you comes along. If you send a text that says “Hi!!!!” and he replies “Hi” without exclamation points galore, it doesn’t mean he isn’t happy to hear from you, it just means he’s a guy who refrains from using girly punctuation. 
