This weekend I watched two very different movies that had a surprising common denominator. First up, Wall Street, starring Charlie Sheen pre Denise Richards and a history full of scandals, in the mid ‘80s tale of an ambitious stockbroker who becomes the protégé of a money making goliath and in doing so compromises his squeaky clean values. My second journey into film escapism this weekend, between thrifting and ice skating, was Youth in Revolt starring the undeniably endearing Michael Cera, who plays a dating-challenged teen who falls head-over-heels for a church girl rebel and will do whatever it takes to win her heart.
In both movies, the leading men transform who they are to get what they want. They are laser focused – with their eyes on their respective prizes - nothing will stop either one of them and in the process their moral compasses get shaky and they lose sight of the men in the mirror. Ultimately, both of their worlds come crashing in on them and they have to decide who they want to be. No surprise that in a Hollywood script, both choose to honor themselves, even if it means they might lose what they had worked so hard to get.
So as not to spoil either story, I won’t tell you what happens, but the point is that in life (for Charlie Sheen’s character) and in love (for Michael Cera’s character) you can’t win when you falsify who you are, to yourself or to someone else. As I’ve written about before in the padded bra syndrome, in dating if you expend your energy chameleoning yourself into what you think a guy wants you to be, it is time wasted. Eventually the truth within yourself will be revealed or it will be unveiled by your guy… leading to the end of your deceptive road together. Instead, use your energy to look for someone who adores and appreciates you for the amazingly beautiful woman that you already are. He's out there... maybe in line at the movies!
Live and love largely,
Tristan
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Waiting in line for a latte can be the ideal time to return a call or beat the next level of Brickbreaker and the idea of flying on a plane iPod-less sounds so 2001, but putting yourself in a technological bubble makes it hard for potential mandidates to break through to you. Buds in your ears or your pretty little face buried in a PDA not only makes it difficult for a guy to penetrate your tech zone, as purposefully or not, you are putting up a “do not disturb” sign. In a world filled with tech-obsessed busy bodies, being the antithesis to this is a refreshing sight to see, and a subtle invitation to guys. So the next time you’ve got some idle time, where sure, you could pound through a dozen emails, text your BFFs or get lost in your favorite new download, consider instead disconnecting from your techie gadgets and open up to connecting with a human hottie. I guarantee pushing a boys buttons will be more fun!
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