Wow… a new year… and a new decade. New opportunities. New possibilities. That’s a lot of new! It seems that at the top of each new year, we cycle into it conditioned to become better people, but to do so, what we really need is a new outlook. So aside from the same ol’ same ol’ resolutions (quit smoking, lose weight, volunteer, do more yoga, etc), I want you to be open to saying “YES!” Adopt this as your word of the year. Become open to trying things you normally wouldn’t, getting off at stops you usually don’t, alleviating yourself from the pressure of perfection, timelines and expectations to make time for other experiences. In doing so, you will stretch yourself to the point where you know no bounds – and get to taste the abundance of flavors out there. You see, life and love’s best moments often come wrapped in unexpected packages, appear at the door without even knocking and are written unscripted…. the best things, free-flowing, organic and curiously made for you to discover, not obvious, but only to be found, if you have your eyes and your heart open.
For me, some of the very best things in my life have been happy accidents. From the opportunity to write a book to a whirlwind move to Europe with Jason after just a few months of dating (!), and of course, to soooo many of my own dating taste tests, countless sprinklings throughout the chapters of my life thus far (and I hope, to come) have been a result of not analytical design, but mere happenstance. By simply walking through the door when I could have closed it, I welcomed wonderful opportunities and grew from them extraordinarily.
So this year, when it comes to dating, I encourage you to unwrap a package that looks unique, answer the knock of a foreign sounding door and read the story of a script that starts a little different than you are used to. At worst, your eyes and heart will be a little more open and you will have learned a bit more about yourself, and at best, you will meet some Mr. Wonderfuls.
Here’s to happy accidents in twenty ten! Happy new year... happy new you!
Live and love largely,
Tristan
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Waiting in line for a latte can be the ideal time to return a call or beat the next level of Brickbreaker and the idea of flying on a plane iPod-less sounds so 2001, but putting yourself in a technological bubble makes it hard for potential mandidates to break through to you. Buds in your ears or your pretty little face buried in a PDA not only makes it difficult for a guy to penetrate your tech zone, as purposefully or not, you are putting up a “do not disturb” sign. In a world filled with tech-obsessed busy bodies, being the antithesis to this is a refreshing sight to see, and a subtle invitation to guys. So the next time you’ve got some idle time, where sure, you could pound through a dozen emails, text your BFFs or get lost in your favorite new download, consider instead disconnecting from your techie gadgets and open up to connecting with a human hottie. I guarantee pushing a boys buttons will be more fun!
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Sunday, 14 February 2010